My wife and I saw both our kids off to University last month, our first taste of the ‘empty nest’. Naturally our thoughts turn to our children’s next stages of life. We hope that we have prepared them well, but as anyone who has either had or been a parent knows – parenting is never over. Rather we trade the worries we had when they were young for the worries of life’s next stage. During each stage we delude ourselves into thinking the next stage will be easier. We now know that not to be true, and the most daunting stage is always yet to come. What choices will our children make when it comes to their life companions? Fathers aren’t consulted on matters such as life companions, but if I were, my advice would go something like this.

The ideal life companion will not care about your standing in life, who your parents are, where you went to school, or for that matter whether you went to school. They will not care where you work. They will not care how pretty you are, or are not. They will not particularly care how smart you are, in fact, there is nothing you could possibly say that would be dumb enough to change how they treat you. They will never leave you for a younger partner, better looking mate, a richer neighbour, or betray you in any way. When you go to bed at night, they’ll be there. When you wake up in the morning, they will be there, undeterred by your bed head, morning breath, or whatever level of dishevelment you may befall to. Yes, as with all relationships there may be some moments of doubt in the early years, but if you remain committed to them, they will not waver. They will be the inverse of too many of life’s less true loves, and will only grow to love you more as you age, treating you better with each passing year, paying for vacations and all manner of luxury in your old age you could not have imagined as a younger person. Find these qualities in a person and you will be unable to live anything other than a rich and fulfilling life. If, however, you are unable to find these qualities in a person, do not despair, these qualities can be purchased and amortized over 25 years!

“Real estate. Buy it, keep it, look after it, and it will look after you”

Ok, admittedly my advice is not the most romantic in nature, but the truth contained therein is difficult to deny. Real estate. Buy it, keep it, look after it, and it will look after you. As for human companionship – I’m afraid I am unqualified to offer much advice beyond what I may offer in the way of a real estate purchase, namely, do your due diligence before you buy.


Thanks for reading,

Jeff Neumann